Let’s face it, us guys are a little like dogs. Being a guy, I can respectfully say that. Hey, it’s not all bad! People love dogs! But dogs think whatever is happening will continue to happen forever. Don’t believe me?

Try throwing a tennis ball for a dog or scratching his head.
When you leave a dog, he looks out the window like he will never see you again.
When you come back, it’s as though you will never leave, even if you leave at the same time everyday for years.

If the relationship is going well for a guy, he believes it will continue to go well without doing anything different, and that it will ALWAYS go well. If it starts going badly, well… we are like that dog: “The relationship may always be bad.” Neither one of those are true! It’s just our dogginess! There is something we can do and it probably won’t make any sense whatsoever. Try it anyway! I’ll be here waiting for the cards and letters to pour in.

Sometimes there is a gradual drifting apart. Other times, there is one element that isn’t working, like communication or appreciation. Still other times it seems like an instantaneous “we-don’t-connect” feeling. When it happens, I have learned to STOP putting the focus on my wife. That’s right. I said,

“STOP PUTTING THE FOCUS ON YOUR WIFE.”

Next, stop putting the focus on yourself. Instead, notice the facts. If your relationship is going badly, chances are your focus became on one of the two of you instead of on God. Start taking time daily to spend time in His Word and pray for your wife. Please do not underestimate the power of this bold move. I have never seen it fail in my own marriage or in others. Press in to God, and your wife will begin to move toward you. If you have drifted far enough, it may not be overnight but continue to do it. It will have a profound impact.

Here is a bonus. If your children begin to drift away and be disrespectful to your wife. This also works. Your children will move toward your wife, as she moves toward you, and you move toward God.

An added benefit is that you will be closer to God! His Word says, “Draw near to Me and I will draw near to You.” It works. I promise. Please comment and let me know about your experience. Also, get the word out! Hit the share buttons below and please subscribe to my blog. I will be praying that everyone reading this will be blessed beyond capacity!